Transgender Remembrance Day - Illustrating Carl Lemesurier’s Story of Transitioning.

A few months ago, we sat down with Dale Boyle to brainstorm some ideas for a project to help the LGBTQ community here in Barrie. After talking for a while we decided to let the ideas simmer in our heads until we came up with a plan.

We decided to ask members of the community to come forward and talk to us personally about either their struggles or successes in their journey to becoming who they wanted to be. The project focuses on the members crafting an image and to use us as the knowledge behind the camera to produce it. Think of it as the person of interest, in this case Carl, was the director of a film set and we are his crew. Now it didn’t go exactly as planned in terms of the whole directing portion of it due to Covid-19 but we still sat down with him and his partner to craft an image he loved. In these images below you can read what Carl wanted to say on the subject at hand.

"Not so long ago you’d never get me near a camera, much less shirtless. Wearing a binder helped my chest dysphoria immensely, but it was only ever a temporary measure and it came with it’s own downsides. The people in my life really saw the change in my self confidence and the way I carried myself completely changed when I got top surgery and didn’t need it anymore. I don’t think you can really understand what dysphoria is like unless you live with it, but the ropes are a pretty apt metaphor. I’ve only really been able to live as myself for the last seven years (give or take), and I’ve come a long way in a comparatively short time. I’ve changed a lot, but every change was me becoming more my true self. It wasn’t always easy, but it was so worth it."

"Due to all the stigma trans people still face, many of us have a hard time finding love. I’ve heard from other trans people and parents of trans kids that they’re afraid they’re going to be alone forever. There was a time when I felt this way, too. I found the love of my life and we’re planning a future together. I wanted other trans people to know there is hope. You can be happy. Your family may look very different than mine, but you can find love in whatever form that takes for you."

We hope that you sit down with these images and take a minute to see the struggles behind someone's happiness. To see the sacrifices they make just to feel comfortable, most of us don’t have to make those sacrifices. Thank you again to Carl and his partner for joining us in this project, we hope to have more people come forward in the future and to make an impact in the community.

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